What Is Your Type?

No, this isn't another one of those internet quizzes that everyone posts. When you're talking about dating, people ask "What's your type?" I've never had a good answer to that question; I don't think I have a 'type'.

It's not that I'm attracted to all women, it's just that there is no particular trait that matters. Tall, short, skinny, overweight, blonde, brunette, redhead, Hispanic, white, Asian, big boobs, small ones, blah, blah, blah... Doesn't matter.

Even when it comes to personalities, I don't have a particular type. There are definitely personality traits that are deal killers but in general terms, it doesn't matter. For example, if you have watched the TV show Flash Gordon, there are two prominent female characters. The first one is Dale. She's sweet, wholesome, down to earth and very feminine. Then there's Balin. She's a bounty hunter from another planet. She's rough around the edges, wild and not terribly civil, tough and really not at all girly (though she's not dykish either). They're both sexy for completely different reasons.

There is always someone "better" out there than the person you're with. If you're with a tall, busty, blonde, you might find yourself looking at petite redheads or Asians or whatever. If you're with someone that tends to be quiet and demure, women that are more gregarious are going to catch you attention. Even if you could think of your absolute, ultimate ideal in a mate, someone will always, eventually seem like a better option.

Why? Because we have a hard time being satisfied with what we have. Why was Hugh Grant soliciting a prostitute when he had a beauty like Liz Hurley? You hear all the time about one movie star cheating on the other. I'm sure you've had friends who broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend and it seems like a really bad decision.

If you're always out chasing "the next best thing," you'll never be satisfied with what you have and you're only hurting yourself in the end. When you have a good thing going, cherish it, nurture it and keep it alive. I've been telling people for years, that just about any two people are are sufficiently committed to each other can make a relationship work.